Dealing with the Gift of Empathy

Dealing with the Gift of Empathy

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I am not an empath. I’m pretty dense. I’m like a rock when it comes to energy. I’m not made of lead, but I might be pumice. Some stuff can get through, but not a lot. I’m a little rough around the edges, but many of my friends and family are like sponges – they suck everything up around them, positive or negative, neutral or chaotic. They feel it all, and they often feel it with ferocity.


It’s usually when the empaths around me start feeling stuff that I start feeling stuff, too. In my experience, empaths can sometimes act like amplifiers to the mood, and general energetic feel of a moment. So that means if an empath isn’t having a good time, no one in a one-mile radius is going to have a good time. Or similarly, if an empath is bouncing off the wall, it might be no time at all before the whole room is going spastic.

Simply put, empaths are individuals who feel things deeply, and for a long time. They feel energies and emotions. They can pick up on subtle cues that you yourself might not even be aware of. On the other hand, they may be so hyper-vigilant from feeling stuff all the time that they might imagine things that aren’t there, just because they’ve come to expect something to be there all the time. With the right discipline, empaths can become quite gifted, skilled, or even powerful. Some people learn these skills through years of study and practice, and others are born with them.

I first realized the power of emotional energy when a former friend of mine was having a hard time. She’d come to my house and cry and cry and cry and after a few months of this we all were exasperated with her. Sure, we felt bad about her situation, but it had reached such an extreme low that we all were going down with her. One time, a 100% mundane, ordinary friend walked into the house right after this girl had finally gone home for the evening. We were all busy on the computer or doing homework, minding our own business when he walked in, stood at the door, and exclaimed, “wow, the energy in here is just terrible! What the hell is going on?”

Even as a “non-believer” he knew something was up. I often find myself in this position, and sometimes it can be exhausting, or even annoying. So what can a non-empath do when dealing with empaths? Here are some things that have helped me when dealing with highly sensitive friends and family. Maybe some of this will help you, and maybe you have some stuff to share as well!

  • Eat some food, not just sugar. Sugar will help replenish energy, but you need something more substantial. Eat something with some fat and especially some protein. The protein will help ground you.
  • Drink water. Don’t drink soda. Don’t drink tea. Drink water. Drink a lot of it. If you are doing something that is energetically stimulating or draining, drink a glass of water before starting and drink a lot more after.


  • Wash your face. This will refresh you and clear your energy. It feels good. It’s a re-set button. When I am feeling energetically unclean, I splash cold water on my face three times, rubbing around my eyes and nose and especially on my forehead. Washing your face and hands in cool water works wonders.
  • Carry hematite or some other grounding stone. Keep in mind that hematite is said to bounce energy back to the sender, so while it’s grounding it might not be the best to neutralize energy. Some recommend onyx. Try a few different stones and see what works best for you in different situations.
  • Touch the ground with your bare feet.

Feet on the ground

  • Take three deep breaths.
  • Knock on wood or on the bare earth. Touch your fingertips to wood or to the soil.
  • Don’t let your empath-friends get carried away. This happens all too easily. Lovingly remind them to stay grounded in reality. As fun as magic and energy can be, oftentimes empaths escalate energetic situations into an atomic explosion, and this isn’t always appropriate. Empaths often can seem to over-exaggerate or even be drama queens, so be sympathetic to their experiences but keep them grounded in reality. Sometimes empaths can get carried away about ghosts and demons and angels and portals and visions and all sorts of fun/scary things. These experiences can be valid, but can also be exaggerated and blown way out of proportion. This can be confusing and annoying for non-empaths, so be patient but also be grounded in reality. If an empath-friend is getting carried away, encourage them to calm down and center themselves. Encourage them to think with logic rather than emotion, their minds rather than their hearts. Even though intuition is priceless and vital, it sometimes needs to be balanced out with rationality. Emotions can be vitally important and useful, especially to magic-users and occultists, but they can also dilute the reality of the situation and can quickly become amplified to the point when they are no longer useful or serving their purpose.
  • Help your empath-friends to know themselves, to know their strengths and limitations, their successes and their triggers. Help them to avoid potentially negative situations. Sometimes empaths seem to get themselves into messes, both in the magical sense and in the mundane sense. Helping your empath-friend to explore their potential while maintaining clear limits and boundaries will help them control their own emotions and abilities, which in turn will help you and others when interacting with them. Help them to explore techniques that help them ground and center themselves, and help them to realize when something might be a bit too much.
  • And importantly…have fun! Joy and positive emotions can often act as a shield and a protective barrier. There’s strength and power in laughter, and it can be incredibly cleansing and healing. Also, an empath can be a great contribution to a party. (Just be safe and sane!)

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